I hate being condescended to or having people violate my boundaries. It makes me feel small and stupid and vulnerable. It’s rough being sensitive dammit.
On a lighter note I’m playing at an open mic for a bunch of old hippies whose peace vibe is calming me down. Thank you dude who wrote a peace song for Pres. Bush and the couple who sound like the New Pornographers for venting for me.
“The thing about life is that you must survive. Life is going to be difficult, and dreadful things will happen. What you do is move along, get on with it, and be tough. Not in the sense of being mean to others, but being tough with yourself and making a deadly effort not to be defeated.”—Katharine Hepburn (via arpegios)
One argument I’ve seen a few people offer in regards to Occupy Wall Street is that if the “99%” worked harder they’d have more money. True, but perhaps that is at the expense of something? My dad used to be in the corporate “hustle” back in the 80s and he quit it. Why? Because they asked him to do some unethical things, and made him travel so much my little brother didn’t recognize him. To him the “hustle” wasn’t worth not having a family life or compromising his values. This is just one example of why someone might not want to dedicate their entire life to making money. People like my father deserve to support their families without giving up all their time to a paycheck.
"It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the Kingdom of Heaven."
But an emerging body of research is suggesting that spending time alone, if done right, can be good for us — that certain tasks and thought processes are best carried out without anyone else around, and that even the most socially motivated among us should regularly be taking time to ourselves if we want to have fully developed personalities, and be capable of focus and creative thinking. There is even research to suggest that blocking off enough alone time is an important component of a well-functioning social life — that if we want to get the most out of the time we spend with people, we should make sure we’re spending enough of it away from them. Just as regular exercise and healthy eating make our minds and bodies work better, solitude experts say, so can being alone.
It’s the yin/yang. When will we realize that balance is what we need?
“If you were to be baptized in the early centuries, you had to make a commitment not to kill anybody, period,” says Forest. “How did we lose that? Merton and Dorothy were two of the people in the 20th century who helped to unpack those boxes that had been pushed up into the attic.”—Jim Forest On Dorothy Day and Thomas Merton
“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.”—
My friend Jess likes to recite an African saying “When you pray, move your feet.”
"Wall Street", or more accurately the big corporate world, worships money, so the best way to get at them is to start a better distribution of our money instead of giving it all to big corporations.
1. Move your money from a big bank to a local bank or credit union. This will spur on loans to local businesses and create a more equal distribution of money.
2. Eat! (Locally) Buy from local farms. Microbrew instead of a Bud. Cook instead of going out and eating. Go to a locally owned restaurant instead of a chain. You get the picture.
3. Hippie/hipster chic a.k.a. buy used stuff. Clothes from thrift stores, books from half.com and other used book purveyors, household items from Craigslist, curbs, friends, garage sales.
4. Hang out in immigrant neighborhoods and stores. Go have dinner in your local Korea-town or Latino neighborhood. This serves more for inspiration than anything. You’ll see how there are other brands, other ways of living, people who still cook from scratch and can re-use stuff.
5. Get your punk on. Support indie artists. Watch a documentary on PBS or Netflix instead of a big studio release. Go see an indie band, a local art gallery. Buy from bandcamp instead of iTunes (like my CD All Good Cowboys for instance! #shamelessplug).
6. Create don’t use. Plant a garden. Start an art project. You’ll be surprised how quickly you don’t have time for corporate stuff (stuff = going to the mall, watching TV, eating corporate food) when you’re making your own stuff.
7. Get aware. Exploitation exists all around us. Research one thing per day. Research sex trafficking. Women’s rights. Religious persecution. Blood diamonds. Drug trafficking. LGBT persecution. What it’s like to be poor. What it’s like to be a factory worker. What it’s like to be a farmer or Walmart worker in the the poor parts of the country. You’ll be surprised what a little light can do.
8. Walk more. Or bicycle. Even if you can’t get anywhere but to the end of the block. Remind yourself that you are capable of getting around on your own two feet.
In short: do it yourself, support local, support indie, open your mind.
“You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.”—